And just like that you are back with him.
I understand why. You still love him. You have children together. Finances are easier. Perhaps you feel as if you owe him – and yourself – another chance.
But…will you remember?
Will you remember his angry words?
Will you remember when he asked you why you couldn’t be happy for him? Why you couldn’t be happy for him – your husband – and she – his girlfriend?
Will you remember when he told you that he could not give you a second chance because you controlled everything in your marriage?
Will you remember that he told his girlfriend that he loved her? Time and time again?
Will you remember that he visited her and was unfaithful to you?
Will you remember that you found out about his girlfriend by accident?
Will you remember that he lied and told you that he wasn’t leaving you for another woman?
Did you consider the fact that men are not as forgiving as women?
Did you consider the fact that if it were you who left him for another man, that he would not forgive you?
Have you considered the fact that he probably went back to you because his girlfriend did not follow through with leaving her marriage?
You’ll probably forget, or try to, but your friends will remember. We will remember how much he torched your heart and your mind. We will remember how hard he made you cry. We will remember the woman you were before he broke you and made you think it was your fault.
I hope you remember that woman, too.